A few of my friends have babies. And that's nice for them. I like babies; they're cute and I don't mind babysitting every now and then. But let's face it, they're a lot of work. And as happy as I am for my new parent friends, I really not too thrilled with some of the things they say and do.
Please, don't call me during happy hour, wanting me to listen as you put your child on the phone in the hopes that the child will say something cute. Honestly, I can't hear anything other than you in the background, trying to coax the kid to say something. It's a little annoying to let this go on for minutes at a time. I'm at happy hour for a reason. I have some drinking and socializing to do; most likely, it's been a crappy day at work.
And don't be telling me how much better your life is since having your child. I mean, every parent should be proud and happy to have children. That's only natural. But don't make it sound like your life was crap before you had kids. Because all I'm hearing is that I'm crap because I don't have kids, as if babies are the latest high tech gadgets or newest fashion trend; and you having one somehow makes you better than me. It's great that you have a kid; that was your choice and I supported your decision. So, please, don't try to to look down on me for deciding not to have any right now...or ever.
And finally, having a baby changes everything. Really, it does. And it should. That means you can't party or hang out with me like you used to. The rest of us don't get together to go clubbing or bar hopping just to spite you. We really just want to enjoy a night on the town, and sometimes, these things just happen at the last minute. Spontaneous gatherings happen, and we can't always give you a 24 notice to get a sitter so you can join us. So don't be mad when you hear that we went out and had a good time. You used to do the same thing. But you've got a baby now, so things change.
I'm happy my friends have kids. It's all part of life. But you have to deal with changes that come with having kids. And those changes include deciding whether you still want be friends or not. We might not be able to do the same things like before, but we can still hang out and do other fun things. It just takes some readjustment and work. Having a baby means growing up; don't let it be about friends growing apart. Don't rock the boat, baby.