tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906051794067626825.post6268572768842744299..comments2024-03-23T04:43:21.740-05:00Comments on Eros Den: Silver and Gardenias Part 2: Omenseroswingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06678990077292314028noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906051794067626825.post-27084618324711208432009-03-03T01:42:00.000-06:002009-03-03T01:42:00.000-06:00CYFN, You're so right about distance. I noticed t...<B>CYFN</B>, You're so right about distance. I noticed that some of my siblings shouldn't be living next to each other--it makes competition and strife much easier to blossom.<BR/><BR/>Cutting off contact with my hurtful siblings certainly has made my life much happier and less stressful. I've just accepted that they are not nice people, and I can't change them. I've always been close to my nieces and nephews though, but that's mostly because we are the same age! So, I'm a lot closer to them than to their parents, and I enjoyed seeing them again. They've seen just how terrible their parents are to each other, yet they've managed to be close to me and their cousins. That's a good thing, and I want to nurture and protect that good relationship for as long as I can.eroswingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06678990077292314028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906051794067626825.post-43755667908642693982009-02-28T21:23:00.000-06:002009-02-28T21:23:00.000-06:00I think that distance is the only answer in many r...I think that distance is the only answer in many relationships and to be honest blood means very little to me anymore, my blood relatives have treated me so badly and hurt me for so many years I truly believe it is for the best interest of me and my children to stay away from the majority of my family and I am unconcerned how this makes them feel for I am in not in control of their feelings and refuse to feel bad about protecting myself. <BR/><BR/>It is good you still talk to their kids, I do not. That is the only hard part but sometimes you have no choice but to throw the baby out with the bath water.compulsively yours...for nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10500760323693715370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906051794067626825.post-32976610326668805652009-02-28T04:26:00.000-06:002009-02-28T04:26:00.000-06:00Beast, You're so right about the tv/movie families...<B>Beast</B>, You're so right about the tv/movie families. Every family has some issues, but I guess when it's your family, the problems just seem worse.<BR/><BR/>I think that surviving my father's passing really made accepting my mother's passing easier. It's still sad and heartbreaking, but I'm also so glad that she isn't suffering anymore. You're so lucky to still have both parents. Cherish them. I wish I had one more chance to talk with mine.<BR/><BR/><B>MJ</B>, Thank you. I know my mother loved me, even if I was a pain in the neck sometimes :)<BR/><BR/> I'm really grateful that she lived so long and that I had been able to talk with her like an adult. A long time ago, before I set out on my own, I settled things with her; I'm so lucky to have been able to say all those things I wanted to say to her and talk to her for as long as I did.<BR/><BR/><B>CYFN</B>, Thank you for sharing your experiences. I'm hoping that my mother's passing would've mended the rift between some of my siblings and I. Some I've reconnected with; others, I realize that I just may need to stay away from. But that's life. I'm still grateful that I'm very close to my nieces and nephews, even if I'm not close to their parents (my brothers or sisters).<BR/><BR/>That dream was the calling I received to make the journey home. I'm glad I listened to it.eroswingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06678990077292314028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906051794067626825.post-45719535209580051992009-02-27T15:19:00.000-06:002009-02-27T15:19:00.000-06:00Our families are very similar. I stayed away from...Our families are very similar. I stayed away from my family for years. I was not in contact with my siblings when my mother became ill and so it was very hard for me to be so close to them while I was taking care of her for the weeks before here death. I took care of her and was by her side when she died but my siblings made it extremely difficult to be there. But 2 of them are closer to me now then they ever have been. There are ten of us and the other 8 were total asses the whole time, but of course I swallowed my pride and set our differences aside for my dear mother. <BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I think that was an amazing dream. I nearly cried when I read it. I hope it helped you.compulsively yours...for nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10500760323693715370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906051794067626825.post-52098005538346296952009-02-27T10:50:00.000-06:002009-02-27T10:50:00.000-06:00Beast is being surprisingly erudite and sensitive!...Beast is being surprisingly erudite and sensitive!<BR/>*impressed*<BR/><BR/><I>I haven't always been a good son; and I know that I've caused my mother pain over the years.</I><BR/><BR/>Nor was I always a good daughter and I know that I caused my mother pain.<BR/><BR/>It is the natural order of parent/child relationships.<BR/><BR/>Don't ever beat yourself up for it.<BR/><BR/>Sounds to me like she knew how much you loved her.The Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07109289531733623207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7906051794067626825.post-79467608524377396332009-02-27T05:17:00.000-06:002009-02-27T05:17:00.000-06:00Eros , families are difficult things , we have all...Eros , families are difficult things , we have all this sugar sweet tv and film pushed at us of happy family life where everyone gets on or deals with problems within a 50 minute time slot with all parties being interestingly difficult and morally noble as everything is resolved and forgiven. Real life never is like that and 90 percent of families don't really get on.<BR/>So I wouldn't beat yourself up to much about that aspect of it , and I am sure your mother would have understood that . I have yet to go thru this as both my parents are still with us , but it won't be far in the futur and don't know how I will handle it when it comes . So thanks for sharing your experienceBEASThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15428640137434521072noreply@blogger.com